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Horse Refuses to Stand Still by Pat Parelli

When your horse won’t stand still, it can be so frustrating and so maddening. He circles, invades, pulls, even rears up. Sometimes it can even be a little unnerving. Humans are small in comparison to the size of a horse, and a restless, restive horse can feel dangerous.

There are two things that can help your horse not only stand still, but want to – and they are both the exact opposite of what most people do. When your horse refuses to stand still, instead of holding him tight and jerking on the halter, give him more rope and get him to move more! It’s called reverse psychology and it works. Give your horse at least four feet of rope, put your back against a wall or fence and then play the Driving Game, sending your horse quickly from one side of the fence to the other. When a horse is full of adrenaline, holding him close makes him feel claustrophobic and panicky. By giving him more rope, you stop aggravating this feeling.

When a horse needs to move his feet, the more you try to stop him the worse it gets. So do the opposite…get him to move his feet faster than he wants and pretty soon the adrenaline comes down and all he wants to do is stand still. Oh…and don’t let him go in circles. The fact that he has to go back and forth, faster than he wants to is the secret to this exercise. This can take a little time if it’s an extreme horse, but even though a few minutes might feel like an eternity to you it’s a drop in the bucket of time where a horse is concerned.

One of the great trust and confidence builders in the Parelli method of natural horsemanship is our Seven Games DVD. Starting with the first game – the Friendly Game – and progressing through the series is a natural way of building a partnership/relationship between human and horse. The Driving Game we refer to above is also one of the Seven Games.

One of the common mantras of Parelli natural horse training is “Take the time it takes.” So many people don’t take the time it takes to do things right, and end up spending so much more time dealing with the horse’s problem on an ongoing basis. If you invest the time it takes to understand why your horse refuses to stand still and then do what it takes to naturally discharge the underlying cause, you’ll have a horse who stands still with no problem.

A happy, calm, peaceful, satisfied and relaxed horse.

A happy, calm, peaceful, satisfied and relaxed human.

That’s what natural horsemanship will get you every time!



by Ron Meredith President, Meredith Manor International Equestrian Centre

Getting a horse to stand still is all about getting its attention. Heeding teaches you to keep your attention on the horse so that the horse will keep his attention on you. Once you have the horse's attention, you use your body position to create pressures or shapes that, in turn, create a feeling in the horse that he should move forward or left or right or stop. You can also direct him to stand still in one spot while you work around him or the farrier works around him or you want to put on his saddle.

The first place this giving and receiving of attention starts is in grooming. So that's where standing still also starts. You must pay attention to the horse while grooming. This is very important in terms of horse logic. The horse allows itself to be groomed and you honor the horse by grooming him. In the horse's mind, grooming is about a whole lot more than brushing off dirt.

You start building a relationship with the horse through scratching or brushing the places the horse loves to be groomed. If you give him the freedom to move, he'll move around and change his posture to show you exactly where he wants you to scratch. The horse's secondary or neutral line runs through his shoulders so, horse logically, that's the most comfortable place to start. You're not putting any pressure on him when you're standing at his shoulder facing him. Work out gradually from this comfortable spot towards places that are instinctively uncomfortable for the horse like scratching from his withers up his neck, down his front legs or around his back legs. Never surprise the horse about where you're going.

In the beginning, the horse may need to be tied. But the best way to groom is to have the horse loose in a big enough place that he can move around to show you were he wants to be scratched or he can leave you if he wants. Let the lead rope trail on the ground and, if he wants to leave, let him go. When he steps on the lead rope, he'll interrupt his leaving and think about whether that was a comfortable thing to do.

If he starts to leave, just calmly back up out of his kicking range so he can go by quietly. Don't chase him. Keep his attention on you with just enough sound or movement, just enough fuss, that his ears swivel towards you. You want an intense level of attention not an intense level of activity. Eventually the horse will turn around and face you to see what the fuss is all about. Then you stop fussing, walk up quietly to his shoulder on that neutral line through his withers and start grooming again. You want to create the feeling in the horse that standing there quietly with you is the most comfortable place to be.

Your goal is to make standing next to him and grooming him so comfortable that the horse wants to groom you back. If you are working with a baby horse that has a tendency to bite or nip, stabilize his lower jaw with a dropped noseband. You don't want to have to slap him when he reaches around to groom you. In the horse's mind, grooming you in return for your favor of scratching him is a proper, horse-logical thing to do. A slap would spoil the feeling of quiet and trust you are trying to build. Instead, when the horse reaches around to groom you, just quietly slide your hand up his neck and push gently against the back of his jowl. This reinforces the feeling that the thing you want him to do is just stand there quietly.

As you groom, move your primary line around the horse in a circle. That means when you're alongside the horse facing him, all of your motion is sideways. When you want to leave the horse and have him stand, return sideways to that neutral line running through his withers and back straight out. When you are far enough away that the horse looks to see what you're doing, turn halfway around so your back is to him. Now walk away.

In the beginning, the horse is going to think, "Hey, he's gone." Then the horse feels free to wander off while you're going to get the brush or the blanket or whatever. So you go back to making that little fuss, getting his attention back on you, getting him facing you, then you just calmly go back to whatever it was you were doing. Wherever the horse stops and says, "I'm listening again," you go over and work with him there. Don't move him back to the original spot you were working because this changes the issue for the baby horse. Your intention to keep the horse paying attention is the secret to creating the feeling that he should just stand there when you leave.

Over a period of time, the horse comes to understand that he should just stand there when you are alongside him, he should stand there when you're doing things out away from him, and he should just stand there when other people like the farrier or the vet or a judge are walking around him. You are teaching him a pattern that you want to become a habit.

This habit also gives you a safe way to leave a horse you're turning out without getting kicked or run over. When you're leaving the horse in a spot he doesn't have to stay until you return, you leave by a slightly different route. Back out far enough on the horse's neutral line to be out of kicking range, then turn so your primary line is parallel to the horse's and leave to the rear. If the horse doesn't move off, you can swing your primary line behind him to create a feeling that you are following or chasing to communicate that he can move off now.

In the training sequence, keeping the horse's attention on you at every moment is not critical once you and the horse have developed a bigger relationship. But in the beginning, keep the horse's attention on you is the basis of everything else.

Meredith Manor is an equestrian career college dedicated to preparing students for hands-on, equestrian careers as trainers, instructors, equine massage therapists, stable managers, farriers and more. If you want a career with horses and are considering attending Meredith Manor, request an information packet to learn more.

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